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From: Lee Hoffman <>
Subject: Re: [TMG] Divorce still shows as spouse
Date: Mon, 01 Mar 2004 23:46:36 -0500
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Dennis Norton wrote:
>Yes, it does help at least in my thinking about it. People with these
>"issues" like divorce want their history to be artificially "cleaned" up,
>and I have tried to accommodate them and in earlier programs I used before
>TMG, I could do this. However, I understand why TMG doesn't want to let me
>"clean" them up.

Actually, TMG does let you massage the data to artificially create a
person's history that does not represent reality. However, it forces you
to do this massaging in such a way that _you_ are making the changes on
purpose and not by accident.

>I'm just trying to find a way to make living relatives
>happy about the genealogy of the family. Guess I shouldn't worry so much
>about that.

I'd like to say that, but the reality of people prevents me from doing that
unless I no longer want to get the real information. Thus I ask for all
the real information and only publish what they allow me. Thus when I go
back to them and ask for more information, they are not reluctant to give
it to me since they can trust me not to publish anything they are sensitive
about.

>I might try a couple of suggestions made by you and Peter Thompson just to
>make this relative happier, but your answers are well taken and I'm at
>least glad I did not have a misunderstanding about how TMG works in regard
>to divorce.

It may be other information as well. I have one that married, had a child,
was divorced, the ex-spouse took the baby and left without leaving any
contact address. The person has since married again and has another
family. They do not want the new family to know anything about the
half-sibling until they are older.

Also, a few years ago, I had information about a person's parent who had
spent a number of years behind bars as a result of something they did while
very young. The person didn't want their grandchildren to know about it
until they were older and the grandparent was dead. I kept that wish until
the grandparent died and until after the parents told the kids.


Lee Hoffman/KY
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